As soon as we give birth our mindset shift from ” free ” to “responsible “. As if a heavy weight is dropped on us. The ego find this an opportunity to grow, so it fool us into defining us with the parenting role. Thus a mother will play the mother role on her kids and gets extremely angry if treated otherwise, because right now it’s not just a role! it’s her identity. WHO SHE IS. Obviously this creates a lot of problems within a family. Parents clinging their kids freedom, Abusing and unfairly dealing with their kids under the role of “parents”. Furthermore, the kids grow up irresponsible, indecisive , lacking personality and independence… Never recovered from the role of ” child ” that was forced by the parents.
Parents! I understand the profound love you’ve for your children. Yet true love can never be expressed through the ego. The ego always seek conflicts to validate itself. The role of a parent is nothing more than a tool for the ego to stay alive inside you and keep you attached. Inaddition the superior parent role creates a boundary between the child and his parent. Any relationship that include the ego is inauthentic.
If you really love your kid and concerned about him/ her, ask yourself these questions every time you catch yourself in the role of parenting.
1. Did I like it when my parents did this to me ?
2. Is their another way I can make my kid understand my message ?
3. WHO is the better teacher experience or what I’m going to say right now ?
4. What’s the worst case scenario my kid can cause ?
5. Is my action and words showing love or the opposite?
6. Do i really want my kid to become the best or be himself ?
You can still be a parent without playing the role of a parent! Give your kids love , give them care & knowledge but through friendship. Become their life companion and not as a superior parent. The best thing you can do is to be YOURSELF. Be real. ONLY REAL THINGS CAN INFLUENCE OTHERS.
Let life teach them! yes, I understand you dont want your kids to do the same mistakes you’ve done. But let’s be real; did you learn through experience or words ? Don’t forget that your experience made you into who you are today. Therefore, give your kids SPACE. Let them be, experience and grow. SPACE is truly the most thing they need. Let go of your attachment to the ego Now! for the sake of your children.