If I would ask you right now, are you free? will you honestly answer yes? Most people deep down know that they didn’t reach the definition of freedom. Maybe the definition itself is the boundary. Maybe you weren’t born a slave to this world but you enslaved yourself by what we call A TITLE. Maybe the roles you play are not a part of life, but a mechanism for limitations.
What is an IDENTITY?
An identity is a title that you inherited by the society based on your Role ( functional role believed by the subconscious mind). in addition, your identity could be based on a place that you THOUGHT you found yourself in. It’s anything we put before it “my “ or “I’m”. The dark side of self identifying is that what you identify yourself with becomes a part of you. Not in reality, but in the subconscious belief system it become WHO YOU ARE . which makes you attached to the tittle. thus you live in a loop of your SELF IDENTITIES and can never become or do something out of that loop. Simply Because your’s strongly attached to it. Every identity you adopt takes away a piece of your freedom, limits your potential and keeps you fixated instead of being the flexible human being you are .
It’s extremely difficult to overcome the desire of self identification. But when you stop looking for “who you are ” automatically opens the door to the truth of who you are. Identities are man made illusions. They’re created by the mind and feeds the Ego . As long as the ego inside you is alive, consciousness can’t take place. Only more limitations of the the false image will emerge; causing illusions like fear, over thinking, negativity etc.. TO BREAK FREE YOU MUST LET GO. To rise you must kill what’s holding you down, remember you are your own worst enemy.
My sister have spent her entire life hanging from one job to another. In every job she repeated the same phrase ” I’m not happy “. My sister wasn’t a slave to the system. She had courage to stand up for herself and she didBut she couldn’t quit her old fashioned mentality! She was like any human, looking for happiness & success. She was someone who believed happiness & success exist with a common job, especially in a super developed city. My sister failed to realise what she’s looking for is in fact inside her .
“DON’T ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO THE WORLD, ASK WHAT MAKES YOU ALIVE .” This’s one of my favourite quotes plus the reason for my sister’s dissatisfaction. Non of the positions she obtained were fulfilling her, simply because she wasn’t living her life mission. We’re all born with a gift. A gift that’s suppose to be used for the service of others. Everybody’s gift is different. To find what your gift is; you must discover who you are not. When you know who you are not, who you are will become clear.
Note : Don’t confuse your gift with passion or interests! One of the common mistakes is that people have too many interests. So they run around trying to do everything. While you can only get excellent at one thing, Which is your gift..
But How do I find my gift / purpose in life faster? Experience.
I met a very wise man on my flight to Africa who I ended up being friends with. He told me something that’s stuck with me ever since, “welcome all experiences”. Go through everything that comes your way, UNTIL THE END. The more you experience the better you know what not to do. which later guide you to your purpose. Dont take failing as something too seriouse, you’re not worthless! Your failure is for two reasons, either the thing you failed in is not meant for you ( not your purpose) or it is your purpose in life, but you’re on the road of learning. EMBRACE AND LOVE EVERY FAILURE, BECAUSE EVERY FAILURE IS A STEP FORWARD.