There’re countless myths about soulmates out there, I honestly dont understand why.. I mean a soulmate must be very distinguishable. However, I decided to make this blog in order to clarify the confusion.
Myth 1: we often think a soulmate is a person who “complete us”. The truth is you’re already a whole, You’re complete by your own. An accurate definition of a soulmate comes from the word itself “mate for the soul“. Which indicate that your soulmate is a person who is spirituality alignment with you and balances you out. A mate who you find harmony with in the physical and non physical world.
Myth 2: Another misunderstanding about soulmates is that he or she must be very similar to you. My answer to this myth is “it depends”. Some soulmates are similar, others are totally opposite. It doesn’t matter! What matters is that there’s a strong field of connection between the two souls. Another sign to look for is that “Do they make me grow?” …doesn’t your partner challenge you into becoming the best version of yourself? If the answer is ” yes” then he/she is your soulmate and vice versa.
Myth 3: Most people believe that a soulmate relationship is all rosy. I’m sorry but it’s not, a soulmate relationship is just like any relationship. There are ups and downs. Especially in a soulmate relationship where each partner subconscious challenges the other’s , it’s fair to say that such relationship could have more difficulties than a regular relationship.
The theory of paralle universe is also called omniverse, is a hypothetical group of multiple universes including the universe in which we live. Together,these universes comprise everything that exists. To clarify, the universe consist of multiple parallel realities, each reality hold a possibility. Your present choice is what determin your reality, you change you destiny by just choosing. As i said in a previous blog; Destiny is made up of two parts. A part that is under ďyour control and a part that’s controlled by God.
Lets take an example, imagine Tom walking down the street and happen to see an ice cream shop. The fact that Tom reached such destination is a blessing from God. However, Tom’s role is to choose whether to take this opportunity or not. Until Tom make up his mind, there exist countless possibilities. Like him buying an ice cream, him not buying an ice, him buying a shake instead, him only using the bathroom or walking away from the ice cream shop…etc. Each of Tom’s possibilities will be in a future parallel reality and once Tom make up his mind, he will experience the chosen reality.
What’s crucial to understand is that if Tom have choosen not to eat an ice cream someone else will eat his ice cream. His opportunity will become someone else’s reality, if he didn’t choose it. This applies on everything in life. If you don’t accept the money, the money will go to someone else. If you don’t eat the food, it will get eaten by someone else and so on. This’s the law of life, to every giver there’s a receiver. You have multiple possibilities, but only one opportunity. So it’s either you choose to give and there will be a receiver or you take in place of those who gave away their opportunity. Another way to think about it is that to every present there’s the absence of it.
THINK THINK THINK .. I’m sure you have heard this advice before, perhaps your parents told you to think every time you got stuck in a problem. The society link thinking with intelligence and engraved the idea that “ the more you think the smarter you are“. which is nothing but a myth. What if I told you that thinking is actually stupidity. A certain degree of thinking is healthy but if crossed it become overthinking and distract you from the reality, as if you’ve jumped into a dream world of your thoughts. The disadvantage is that you become limited by the bubble of thoughts. kind of like mentally moving in a circle, You fail to think out of the box.
Is the thinking the only function of the brain?
No, the brain is not made only to THINK. indeed thinking is not suppose to be done all day long. In situations where thinking it’s require, thinking must be put to use. Other times it’s best to stop thinking. When you don’t think you finally shift into the NOW. you become fully present at the moment. This shift in focus open the door to creativity. Thus you find your greatest ideas in the shower or while taking a walking etc. Physical activities help rest the mind and turn your focus outward (from the mind into the body), so you don’t think. Instead you feel every inch of yourself and the world around you in action. In other words, you Bec one ALIVE. Albert Einstein once said _“I think 99 times and find nothing. I stop thinking, swim in silence, and the truth comes to me”
NO THINKING = FULL CONSCIOUSNESS
I can’t strop thinking!! and I don’t know what to do when I’m not thinking?
it’s impossible to know the state of consciousness when you are thinking about it. You should just experience it then you will discover the mystery. Certainly you will find it difficult at first. What I usually do to easily shift my focus, is concentrating on something outside of me. like my breathing , sound, the silence in-between the sound, the environment or even on one of my organs. Once I’m successfully present in the now. I simply reflect (observing the surrounding) or imagine ( use my creative imagination). Conscious is like a muscle , it needs practice in order to master it. So try to shift your focus regularly during the day. Catch yourself if possible when you’re unconscious and turn yourself into a conscious state of being. With time you will find yourself more conscious than you were before.
Take a shower and your depression will go away. I’m seriously! As silly as it sounds, it’s true. Depression is caused by external factors. Like the environment or an event or a simple object that reminded you of your darkest times… it always begin outside, then slowly triggers a certain emotion. The emotion grows as you give it attention and In no time it awakens the pain in your heart. Thus become your state of being; what we often call a MOOD.
There was a time when I got so busy with tasks and decided to put self care as my last priority. I didn’t take a shower for 2 contentious days! GROSS I KNOW. But the lesson I learned from this experiment was BIG. I recognised the dramatic mood swing. Showering is a big deal. When showering you’re not only cleaning your body from dirt. But you’re cleansing your energy too. Our aunt sisters understood that water is the key to life. They referred to water as a cleansing tool and use to do what they called SPIRITUAL SHOWERS. Where you perform a normal shower, but while dropping water on your body you imagen the negative toxic energy falling off with the water. As if the water is stripping away the negative energy from your body part.
The danger of not showing regularly goes beyond the spiritual and psychological aspects. When you don’t shower your skin PH becomes disturbed. In addition your skin pores gets blocked. When your skin can’t breath you feel DEAD and develop frustration, anger and depression. Your state of being reflects on the outside; through your attitude and what you attract. Energy thing is energy, so take care of your energy first .
A short advice to those who have Been suffering with depression for a very long time. YOU’RE NOT ALONE. Yet just because it’s common it doesn’t mean you accept it. Get yourself out of it NOW!! Look at your lifestyle and what could possibly be feeding your depression. Is it sad energy you watch on Instagram? Is it your diet or your self esteem? Or is it the fact that you lock yourself at home? .. You see, our anut sisters lived outdoor. They never had electronic devices or OGM food. They listened to their bodies. Thus they never had depression. LIVE AS A HUMAN, LIVE THE RIGHT WAY.
If I would ask you right now, are you free? will you honestly answer yes? Most people deep down know that they didn’t reach the definition of freedom. Maybe the definition itself is the boundary. Maybe you weren’t born a slave to this world but you enslaved yourself by what we call A TITLE. Maybe the roles you play are not a part of life, but a mechanism for limitations.
What is an IDENTITY?
An identity is a title that you inherited by the society based on your Role ( functional role believed by the subconscious mind). in addition, your identity could be based on a place that you THOUGHT you found yourself in. It’s anything we put before it “my “ or “I’m”. The dark side of self identifying is that what you identify yourself with becomes a part of you. Not in reality, but in the subconscious belief system it become WHO YOU ARE . which makes you attached to the tittle. thus you live in a loop of your SELF IDENTITIES and can never become or do something out of that loop. Simply Because your’s strongly attached to it. Every identity you adopt takes away a piece of your freedom, limits your potential and keeps you fixated instead of being the flexible human being you are .
It’s extremely difficult to overcome the desire of self identification. But when you stop looking for “who you are ” automatically opens the door to the truth of who you are. Identities are man made illusions. They’re created by the mind and feeds the Ego . As long as the ego inside you is alive, consciousness can’t take place. Only more limitations of the the false image will emerge; causing illusions like fear, over thinking, negativity etc.. TO BREAK FREE YOU MUST LET GO. To rise you must kill what’s holding you down, remember you are your own worst enemy.
Do you think you are independent at this point of time? … You know I always thought i’m independent at many stages in my life. But every time I think I’m, I discover I’m actually not independent. He who answered this question as “NO”. Is the closest to the truth; YOU CAN NEVER BE INDEPENDENT.
Sure! You will grow and become independent in the dictionary of this world. You will own things..no longer need your parents or people etc. Best of all, you will become emotionally independent ( by spiritualgrowth). Emotional independence is the advanced level of independence. It have a strong link with spirituality since emotions are the language of the heart. When you come to the realisation that your soul is independent of this world, you will learn to survive on your own (with the help of God only). Emotional independent is the detachment from all external sources. It’s such a POWERFUL state of being and it’s empowered even more with the reliance on God.
The reality is, we can’t achieve full independence. Simply because we’re created as The slaves of god. A slave is always needy. Always Relying on his master. It’s a blessing dont you think ? When you understand that your creator is the sustainer and most generous, you will happily submit to him.
I’m not here to judge you or tell you what’s right from wrong. I’m here to ask you one question, what did you keep for your lover?
It’s very easy nowadays to FOLLOW. We follow fashion and trends without questioning anything. We show a little skin and say it’s ok. We show too much skin and say it’s ok. We lose ourselves and say it’s ok … We hurt ourselves and others but it must be ok. Everything is ok nowadays, immorality and shamelessness is just OK. Until we meet the love of our life, the one we want to give the world to. The one we love more than ourselves. The one that makes us realise we have nothing left to give. Because we gave it all to the world, Blinded by the media and addicted to attention.
So I will ask you again ladies and gentlemen, what did you keep for your suppose? What will prove to them that they’re special? What gift did you save for them and only them ?
I was in a gathering the other day where everybody BRAGED. Showing off what they have and did. Naturally I just don’t like talking about myself, especially showing off. So i stayed silent. The following days I realized the change in attitude. Obviously the one who showed off the most or in the society’s eyes is “Great” and “Wealthy ” was given respect and honnor. Where for me I was discounted. As a result I got taken by the negativity, not that they harmed me but the act of racism or segregation by itself is negative.
” Just because i dont show off my greatness, doesnt mean i’m not great“. This thought bought me back to my senses. It’s insane how we can think less of ourselves and believe in other’s opinion of us. Yet worst, make it our reality. We live in an age where Trend is stronger than one’s own voice. Indeed, the society tremendously influence how we perceive ourselves. THE ASCH CONFORMITY EXPERIMENT; is a psychological experiment done in the 1950’s. The experiment revealed the degree to which a person’s opinion is influenced by those of groups. It proved that the society can suppress our voice. In fact, people were willing to ignore the reality and give an incorrect answer inorder to conform to the rest of the group. See for yourself ;
You’re great and you don’t need to prove it! No, you don’t need to mimic the fales greatness ( The Greatness measured with materialistic properties, which motivate us to show off and brag instead of act and impact). Greatness is already within you. The true greatness. At the end the only memory will be left of you after you die, is the memories you gave to others. Not your big house or your fancy cars, But how many hearts did you touch. To conclude, just think wiser and become aware of the effect on society on your mind.
ANTI-SOCIAL BEHAVIOUR IS AN ACT OF INTELLIGENCE IN A WORLD FULL OF CONFORMIST _ Nikola Tesla.
What is the soul? Your soul is yourself. The reality of who you are. Indeed you’re nothing more than a deadless, formless and timeless soul. The idea that when your body get sick, your soul get sick which result into death is incorrect. Instead it’s because of a sick soul the body get sick. “We’re not a human beings having a spiritual experience, we’re spiritual beings having a human experience. ”
I want you to imagine a building as your body and it’s base as your soul. The building consist of a strong structure yet if something happens to the base the whole building will fall. On the other hand If something happens to the top of the building the base will remain unaffected. The structure of the building can always be rebuilt; but the base can’t be recovered without destroying the entire building including the base.
My point is, a healthy soul is essential for survival. You must have a strong base in Order to overcome all storms. The amazing thing about the human soul is that it doesn’t ask for much! It doesn’t require sleep or food or money etc. It already have a permemnent life. The only thing the soul needs is a connection with it’s creator. Thus a spiritual connection with god is important, it’s the only way the soul can charge itself and stay alive.
How do I practice spiritual Connection ?
Spiritual connection can be done through praying or meditating. Basically setting an alone time with god, taking to him and acknowledging him. The process of god consciousness is a door way for the soul to connect with it’s master. The absence or lack of this process can be described as heaviness in the chest and you can actually tell that your soul desire a connection with god… It’s very intoxicated by the materialistic world, it badly needs to rest.
How is the soul toxicated by the materialistic world?
The soul is of different nature than the body. The things that the body enjoy and desire; will not satisfy the soul. For example you see people with a sick soul and are very concentrated on the body needs. They arrive at a certain point where their soul breaks. Thus they try to heal it using all the materialistic things in this world but it just never heals.
Due to my experience, I found that fake people vary in degrees of fakeness. So you find a person who’s fake yet not very harmful, while another is super toxic in nature. Why? Because of the materialistic society we live in. Social media encourages people to become FAKE. It brain washes them with immortality. Thus nowadays everybody is infected with a degree of fakeness.
How to spot a fake person? As i mentioned before, fake people are with levels of fakeness, so they might have some of these trades and not all. The people who’re slightly fake are harder to spot than toxic people. Signs of fake people;
1. Attention seeker; A fake person is always hungry for attention and drama. It have to do with his/her ego nature.
2. Showing off all the time; again this subconscious attitude is done by the ego and sense of being incomplete or less than others.
3. They only respect people with power; here where they ” PLAY DIRTY”! Fake people are manipulative experts and super target focused. If they want something from you, they will do anything to get you to like them. It’s also called being TWO FACED or USING OTHERS .
4. They’re a gossiping machine; Fake people love to gossip. They have a sneaky communication habit, Which is not expressing their opinion honesty or directly.
5. They criticize others to make themselves look good. Fake people are very ego based. They’re unable to love or care for anyone other than themselves. They just think of themselves as superior to everyone.
6. They have a big mouth; Fake people will be the first to give promises and big words, yet do nothing at all. They love playing the HERO or Painting a perfect image of themselves .
7. They’re very reactive; Fake people react over everything! They often look for drama and conflicts. So you might find them a little too nosy.
For more understanding on the nature of fake people, Read my blog ” Who’s in control, you or your ego“.