Nobody is hurting us. Instead we hurt ourselves through others. If we don’t turn our focus inward & become conscious of our nature. We’ll allow the past to repeat it’s patterns.
What do you mean by our nature? “Humans are like the moon, with a bright side and a dark side”. We all have an ego (the dark side). Some let it grow and others don’t. The ego feeds on negative low energy, such as anger, drama, fear, sadness, conflicts, hate and jealousy ..etc.
How does it feed on these emotions? The ego see such emotional state as a chance to activate itself through the emotion. So you find yourself getting angry over little meaningless things or get offended by everything neutral etc… If so, understand that it’s not you but your ego trying to take over you. Once the ego activate itself it grow and become powerful. If u let it keep growing through the negativity; it will eventually control you.
Why people who are driven by the ego are very reactive? Their ego jumps as soon as it finds an opportunity for conflicts or drama. Another nature of the ego is that it’s an ego! It only validate itself and it’s not fair. It takes a conscious human to recognise and admit’s his mistake, which is impossible with the ego. Ego is unconsciousness. It’s not your true self, instead your dark side. Therefore, I excuse unconscious people for their action and i think we should all do so. however, To fight the ego you must BECOME CONSCIOUS OF IT. Yes! As simple as this. Recognise it, watch it and accept it. When you The ego will shrink in size and diminish by time when you notice it’s existence.
Note: The state of no-ego; This state is the state of total awareness and self control. It’s inner peace and calmness. You will experience such life changing bless❤.