I understand the struggle and your burning desire for change. But Unfortunately, battling is not the right method. YOU CAN’T CHANGE THE NEGATIVE WITH NEGATIVE. In order to obtain real change you must start with changing the source of the problem. Otherwise the problem will keep recurring; because no effective change have been applied. Likewise, To build a strong building, you need a good foundation. we often focus on the problem instead of the source of the problem. Then as reactive beings we try to replace the existing with our perspective, using force. Thus we fail and will keep failing.
Another problem we commit while seeking change, is that we think everything can be solved using Force. while in reality it complicate things even more. TRY USING YOUR ENERGY INSTEAD OF YOUR BODY. Energy can’t be ignored nor avoided. It’s what makes us and the laws of the universe. When you influence a negative source with good energy, you’ll not only succeed in transforming the source. But you will also attract more positive results.
Let me tell you a little story that happened to me a long time ago; We all have that one person who hates us, for no reason. It’s not that he/she spit out their hate, but the repulsive energy they transmit towards you is obvious. Fast forward, I was once put into an event with a person who held such feelings towards me. It’s not like we’ve spoke before. Yet the moment I acknowledged his hate towards me, I began to transmit positive energy ( In the form of thoughts) . Such as ” hey! your safe, your wonderful, your amazing , i love you, you are blessed, I’m peace, I’m not judging you…etc “. I transmitted a combination of love, positivity and healing energy and I kid you not! the situation shifted 360 degrees!!! The person became more relaxed and peaceful. We even became friends later on.
The method I used here is called TELEPATHY COMMUNICATION. I’m not saying that we should always use this technique. My story is only an example that shows you the power of energy. Nevertheless, You can change people using positive energy, in the form of attitude, positive words, thoughts or just A SMILE. To me this’s the true definition of winning, it’s not only by solving a problem but also saving a life. Picking up someone who’s trapped in negatively and giving them light… We’re not here to create enimes, infact we’re ONE. When you harm others you’re indirectly harming yourself. Plus you’re no longer better than them. So use your energy WISELY. 💕
I was in a gathering the other day where everybody BRAGED. Showing off what they have and did. Naturally I just don’t like talking about myself, especially showing off. So i stayed silent. The following days I realized the change in attitude. Obviously the one who showed off the most or in the society’s eyes is “Great” and “Wealthy ” was given respect and honnor. Where for me I was discounted. As a result I got taken by the negativity, not that they harmed me but the act of racism or segregation by itself is negative.
” Just because i dont show off my greatness, doesnt mean i’m not great“. This thought bought me back to my senses. It’s insane how we can think less of ourselves and believe in other’s opinion of us. Yet worst, make it our reality. We live in an age where Trend is stronger than one’s own voice. Indeed, the society tremendously influence how we perceive ourselves. THE ASCH CONFORMITY EXPERIMENT; is a psychological experiment done in the 1950’s. The experiment revealed the degree to which a person’s opinion is influenced by those of groups. It proved that the society can suppress our voice. In fact, people were willing to ignore the reality and give an incorrect answer inorder to conform to the rest of the group. See for yourself ;
You’re great and you don’t need to prove it! No, you don’t need to mimic the fales greatness ( The Greatness measured with materialistic properties, which motivate us to show off and brag instead of act and impact). Greatness is already within you. The true greatness. At the end the only memory will be left of you after you die, is the memories you gave to others. Not your big house or your fancy cars, But how many hearts did you touch. To conclude, just think wiser and become aware of the effect on society on your mind.
ANTI-SOCIAL BEHAVIOUR IS AN ACT OF INTELLIGENCE IN A WORLD FULL OF CONFORMIST _ Nikola Tesla.
Due to my experience, I found that fake people vary in degrees of fakeness. So you find a person who’s fake yet not very harmful, while another is super toxic in nature. Why? Because of the materialistic society we live in. Social media encourages people to become FAKE. It brain washes them with immortality. Thus nowadays everybody is infected with a degree of fakeness.
How to spot a fake person? As i mentioned before, fake people are with levels of fakeness, so they might have some of these trades and not all. The people who’re slightly fake are harder to spot than toxic people. Signs of fake people;
1. Attention seeker; A fake person is always hungry for attention and drama. It have to do with his/her ego nature.
2. Showing off all the time; again this subconscious attitude is done by the ego and sense of being incomplete or less than others.
3. They only respect people with power; here where they ” PLAY DIRTY”! Fake people are manipulative experts and super target focused. If they want something from you, they will do anything to get you to like them. It’s also called being TWO FACED or USING OTHERS .
4. They’re a gossiping machine; Fake people love to gossip. They have a sneaky communication habit, Which is not expressing their opinion honesty or directly.
5. They criticize others to make themselves look good. Fake people are very ego based. They’re unable to love or care for anyone other than themselves. They just think of themselves as superior to everyone.
6. They have a big mouth; Fake people will be the first to give promises and big words, yet do nothing at all. They love playing the HERO or Painting a perfect image of themselves .
7. They’re very reactive; Fake people react over everything! They often look for drama and conflicts. So you might find them a little too nosy.
For more understanding on the nature of fake people, Read my blog ” Who’s in control, you or your ego“.
People talk about “winning” and “losing“. But winning what ?? Money? is this really what life is about? Is losing really a loss? …Life is nothing but different levels of consciousness for everyone. There’re no WINNERS or LOSERS. we’re in this together. We’re one. Inferiority and superiority are creation of the ego, not the human reality.
The problem with a winner loser mindset is that it defines you with a worldly achievement. Everything that arises dies. This’s the nature of life. Every new life cycle require an ending of another cycle. In order to have an UP there must be a DOWN. However, getting attached to the UP through self definition ( “winner”) is basically allowing yourself to go DOWN with that UP.
Don’t allow the winner mentality to destroy you. Don’t give it power by attaching yourself to it. You are not a winner or a loser, you’re yourself and whatever happens in the external world is not you. Don’t chase things or people! The state of absolute power comes when you’re CONNECTED TO EVERYTHING AND ATTACHED TO NOTHING . I kid you not when I stopped needing or chasing things, everything came to me. There’s a hidden power in detaching yourself.
LETTING GO OF ALL THINGS ATTRACT EVERYTHING. – law of attraction.
The law of detachment insures you that your burning desire will manifest once you LET GO . You see! when you hold on into something so tight it will slip away, plus your pressure will hurt it. Leaving a room for air is necessary for energy flow. Sure, Have a burning desire that drives you out of bed everyday. But not a Need that destroy you and whatever you love. If your goal didn’t get manifested.
Make your energy aligned and connected with your goals. Alignment is everything! Unfortunately It’s not enough to become detachment. You need to vibrate in the same frequency as what you’re trying to attract. LIKE ATTRACT LIKE. In quantum physics energies with the same wave length and frequency travel together.
BECOME CONNECTED TO EVERYTHING AND ATTACHED TO NOTHING. I know how hard it is to let go of something you desperately want . It’s human nature to have the need to possess things. But the truth is you dont need what you’re seeking. You can live without it! You’re already complete and enough by yourself. Believe in yourself and let go.❤