Do you think you are independent at this point of time? … You know I always thought i’m independent at many stages in my life. But every time I think I’m, I discover I’m actually not independent. He who answered this question as “NO”. Is the closest to the truth; YOU CAN NEVER BE INDEPENDENT.
Sure! You will grow and become independent in the dictionary of this world. You will own things..no longer need your parents or people etc. Best of all, you will become emotionally independent ( by spiritualgrowth). Emotional independence is the advanced level of independence. It have a strong link with spirituality since emotions are the language of the heart. When you come to the realisation that your soul is independent of this world, you will learn to survive on your own (with the help of God only). Emotional independent is the detachment from all external sources. It’s such a POWERFUL state of being and it’s empowered even more with the reliance on God.
The reality is, we can’t achieve full independence. Simply because we’re created as The slaves of god. A slave is always needy. Always Relying on his master. It’s a blessing dont you think ? When you understand that your creator is the sustainer and most generous, you will happily submit to him.
Where is the love ? Is it in the things you buy? Is it in your spouse? Is it in nature ? Or in food? Love is within you, It’s not an emotion or a an image ..a person ….a thing …a feeling etc. Love is energy. It’s the energy that gives life. Where there is love there is life
When you like someone you’re selfish. You want to own them. You don’t care if you hurt them through fulfilling your desire. But when you love someone you’re selfless. You care only about their happiness, even if it mean sacrificing your own. Its important to understand that love is pure, it’s from God. Only God can bless you with love. Before you say you love someone test yourself with the definition mentioned above. See if you can LET GO of the person you love. If you failed, then I’m sorry to say IT’S NOT LOVE. IT’S JUST THE EGO, which attach you to your desire (found due to lack in self-esteem and the sense of being incomplete).
Love is infinite. It shouldn’t fade or die simply because energy doesn’t die. Love is a strong nourishing energy that build life on earth. The love in your heart can increase as you ascend through levels of consciousness. Thus many individuals experience a shift in personality after their spiritual awakening process, from bitter and selfish to selfless and compassionate. The love in their hearts have been activated. They then attract more love by practicing love and so forth.
The moral of this blog is; don’t look for love, your not missing it! It’s within you. Just activate it through 2 things;
1. connecting with the true source of love, GOD.
2. Manifesting more love into your life through your actions .
What is the soul? Your soul is yourself. The reality of who you are. Indeed you’re nothing more than a deadless, formless and timeless soul. The idea that when your body get sick, your soul get sick which result into death is incorrect. Instead it’s because of a sick soul the body get sick. “We’re not a human beings having a spiritual experience, we’re spiritual beings having a human experience. ”
I want you to imagine a building as your body and it’s base as your soul. The building consist of a strong structure yet if something happens to the base the whole building will fall. On the other hand If something happens to the top of the building the base will remain unaffected. The structure of the building can always be rebuilt; but the base can’t be recovered without destroying the entire building including the base.
My point is, a healthy soul is essential for survival. You must have a strong base in Order to overcome all storms. The amazing thing about the human soul is that it doesn’t ask for much! It doesn’t require sleep or food or money etc. It already have a permemnent life. The only thing the soul needs is a connection with it’s creator. Thus a spiritual connection with god is important, it’s the only way the soul can charge itself and stay alive.
How do I practice spiritual Connection ?
Spiritual connection can be done through praying or meditating. Basically setting an alone time with god, taking to him and acknowledging him. The process of god consciousness is a door way for the soul to connect with it’s master. The absence or lack of this process can be described as heaviness in the chest and you can actually tell that your soul desire a connection with god… It’s very intoxicated by the materialistic world, it badly needs to rest.
How is the soul toxicated by the materialistic world?
The soul is of different nature than the body. The things that the body enjoy and desire; will not satisfy the soul. For example you see people with a sick soul and are very concentrated on the body needs. They arrive at a certain point where their soul breaks. Thus they try to heal it using all the materialistic things in this world but it just never heals.
Due to my experience, I found that fake people vary in degrees of fakeness. So you find a person who’s fake yet not very harmful, while another is super toxic in nature. Why? Because of the materialistic society we live in. Social media encourages people to become FAKE. It brain washes them with immortality. Thus nowadays everybody is infected with a degree of fakeness.
How to spot a fake person? As i mentioned before, fake people are with levels of fakeness, so they might have some of these trades and not all. The people who’re slightly fake are harder to spot than toxic people. Signs of fake people;
1. Attention seeker; A fake person is always hungry for attention and drama. It have to do with his/her ego nature.
2. Showing off all the time; again this subconscious attitude is done by the ego and sense of being incomplete or less than others.
3. They only respect people with power; here where they ” PLAY DIRTY”! Fake people are manipulative experts and super target focused. If they want something from you, they will do anything to get you to like them. It’s also called being TWO FACED or USING OTHERS .
4. They’re a gossiping machine; Fake people love to gossip. They have a sneaky communication habit, Which is not expressing their opinion honesty or directly.
5. They criticize others to make themselves look good. Fake people are very ego based. They’re unable to love or care for anyone other than themselves. They just think of themselves as superior to everyone.
6. They have a big mouth; Fake people will be the first to give promises and big words, yet do nothing at all. They love playing the HERO or Painting a perfect image of themselves .
7. They’re very reactive; Fake people react over everything! They often look for drama and conflicts. So you might find them a little too nosy.
For more understanding on the nature of fake people, Read my blog ” Who’s in control, you or your ego“.
Nobody is hurting us. Instead we hurt ourselves through others. If we don’t turn our focus inward & become conscious of our nature. We’ll allow the past to repeat it’s patterns.
What do you mean by our nature? The human nature is pure but the ego pollute it. The ego is with each one of us “Humans are like the moon, with a bright side and a dark side”. This is absolutely true. We all have an ego. Some activate it and others don’t. The ego is a basically your DARK SIDE. It feed on negative / low energy. Such as anger, drama, fear, sadness, conflicts, hate and jealousy ..etc.
How does it feed on these emotions? The ego see such emotional state as a chance to activate itself through it. So you find yourself getting angry over little meaningless things or get offended by everything.. etc. If so, understand that it’s not you but your ego trying to take over you. Once the ego activate itself it grow, which makes it powerful. If you allow it to keep growing through the negativity; it will eventually control you.
People who are driven by the ego are very reactive. Their ego jumps as soon as it finds an opportunity for conflicts or drama. Another nature of the ego is that it’s an ego! It only validate itself and it’s not fair. It takes a conscious alert self to admit a mistake. Ego is unconsciousness. It’s not your true self, instead your dark side. Therefore, I excuse unconscious people for their actions. I think we should all do so after learning about the ego. However, the ego can be defeated. Battling the ego require time and constant consciousness.
To fight the ego you must BECOME CONSCIOUS OF IT. Yes! As simple as this. All you should do is become alert of it when it’s present. Absorve your ego at the moment of anger or drama. When you notice the ege it shrink in size. Thus by time the ego will diminish.
How do I know I’m ego_free ? The state of no-ego; This state is the state of total awareness and self control. It’s inner peace & calmness. After you have finally won over the ego. You will experience such life changing bless❤.
Two of my favourite people combined in one video 👌💯
I noticed that self realisation is always misunderstood. Self realisation is basically looking within yourself. Acknowledging yourself as a being, completely with all your flaws. Self realisation process usually happens during hardships. Because that’s when we get challenged and forced to grow into the best version of ourselves AWARENESS IS THE DOOR TO CHANGE.
Whether you’re motivated by pain or you’re lucky enough to have a supportive source of love. Either way you need to push. You have to do the work and put tremendous amount of effort. Life can bless you with something. But if you don’t deserve it, it wont be long until you lose it. The key to owning something permemnently is to EARN IT.
EVERYTHING YOU NEED IS WITHIN YOU. Yes! This statement is absolutely true, you are gifted. Yet you have a duty to give. You need to do your part in order for god to manifest your dreams. For some the effort required is greater than others. The battles and suffering is doubled. But the reward is also doubled. In every battle you grow in knowledge; imagine how wise you will become at the end. This shows us the mercy and blessing of god on us. That even through the hardships there’s GOOD for us. We’re always blessed. What a beautiful reality. ❤
I think the greatest disease of our time is the whole “following” thing. People don’t question anything anymore! It became the norm to follow everything and if you ask someone “why are you following this .. ?” they would simply answer with “because everybody is doing it ” or something between the words “i don’t know, it seems cool”… absolutely zero brain.
Have you ever wondered about the reason behind celebrating christmas? The reason behind Muslims wearing head scarf “hijab”? Or why Jewish people kiss the doorpost on entering a room ( whether there’s a mezuza or not). Maybe dive into history with an open mind and the intention of learning. Always ask “why”. ONLY WHEN WE COME TO UNDERSTAND THE PAST, WE CAN BUILD A BETTER FUTURE. The problem with NO curiosity is that it shut down your brain. Which is an insult to your power. You become insignificant, without a voice. Just a follower. A number that’s used to benefit those who do have a voice.
No curiosity = inactive mind = equivalent to animals.
You see, animals don’t question things they just follow! ..Dont get me wrong! I’m not saying protest against culture, just have a learning mentality. Question things and find the answer. At least you will find meaning into what you’re doing. You will enjoy things and feel them deeply.
TO HELP YOU HAVE TO LEARN and TO BE, YOU HAVE TO BECOME .
As soon as we give birth, our mindset shift from “ free ” to “responsible “. As if a heavy weight is dropped on our shoulders. The ego find this an opportunity to grow! It fool us into defining us with the parenting role. Thus a mother will play the mother role on her child and gets extremely angry if her child doesn’t follow along. It’s not just a role for her! it’s her identity. WHO SHE IS, in other words who she think she is! Obviously this creates a lot of problems within a family. Parents clinging on their children’s freedom, Abusing and unfairly dealing with issues… all under the role of “parents”. Unfortunately, this might cause serious damage of the child’s personality. Such as being irresponsible, indecisive or lacking a personality all together. In some severe cases the child might never recover from playing the role of a ” child “.
Parents! I understand the profound love you’ve for your children. Yet true love can never be expressed through the ego. The ego always seek conflicts to validate itself. The role of a parent is nothing more than a tool for the ego to stay alive inside you and keep you attached. Inaddition the superior parent role creates a boundary between the child and his parent. Infact, any relationship that include the ego is inauthentic.
If you really love your child and concerned about him/ her, ask yourself these questions every time you catch yourself playing the role of parenting.
1. Did I like it when my parents did ( your reaction to the situation) this to me ?
2. Is their a better way I can deliver my message ?
3. Who is the better teacher experience or what I’m going to say right now ?
4. What’s the worst case scenario of this situation ?
5. Is my actions and words showing love or the opposite?
6. Do i really want my child to become the best? And is the “best” other than himself ?
You can still be a parent without playing the role of a parent! Give your child love. Give them care & knowledge but through friendship. Become their life supportive companion and not a superior parent. The best thing you can do is to be YOURSELF. Be real. ONLY REAL THINGS CAN INFLUENCE OTHERS. Let life teach them! yes, I understand you dont want your child to do the same mistakes you’ve done. But let’s be real; did you learn through experience or words ? Don’t forget that your experience made you into who you are today. So please! give your child SPACE…Let them be, experience and grow. SPACE is truly the most thing they need. Let go of your attachment Now! for the sake of your children.
The good will come to you, if you’re patient enough. Patience is hard yet it assures you with a huge reward. Becoming patient is not any kind of superpower, it’s indeed easy. The difference between a patient person and a non-patient or reactive person, lies in the mind. He who’s aware of the flow of life will tend to be patient. He understands that within every situation there’s the part (for you ) to deal with & the uncontrollable part (for god). Use your part wisely and accept the rest. Acceptance is the door way to acquiring patience.
Things will fall into place if you just wait. Relax and trust God. You dont have a strong faith? Pray. Praying will help you surrender to the situation more easily . In addition will give you the feeling of control which is also called stability in the spiritual language.
For betterment seek alignment with positivity. Higher your vibrational state from worried and impatient to, happy and accepting. Your positive state of being will grow and attract more positive things! Things that you didn’t ask for or imagined.
So you are depressed! Let me ask you a few questions before you scroll down. Why are you depression? ..Do you actually care about the “thing” that made you depressed? Do you think you can control your life & your depression?
Often people say “You can’t control what happen in the externally, but you can control what happens internally ” what if I told you “you can control both”. The external reality is a reflection of your inner state of being. When you get your inner self healed, the external world will automatically align. The only reason you’re depressed is because you’re focused on the negative. WHAT YOU FOCUS ON YOU SHALL FIND.
The truth is there’s no good or bad, instead everything is neutral by nature. Our mind is the instrument that define good and bad. When your mind patterns is defining everything as BAD no wonder why you’re depressed! Negative thinking patterns produce negative low emotions, such as sadness, depression, anixity and madness..etc These emotions then create a reaction and the reaction set your reality. You’re reaction controls the event, the event doesn’t control your reaction.
To clarify, The reaction you give is the product of an emotion . the emotion is born from a certain mindset or what we call a perspective on life. It’s like a chain reaction where one thing drag the rest. For example when you’re stuck in a traffic jam you can simply enjoy the sunset view ( turning this moment into joy) or dwel on the fact that you’re stuck in the crowd.
The key to happiness is to look at everything as it is. With a neutral perspective. No judgment. Exactly how Shakespeare said ” NOTHING IS GOOD OR BAD BUT THINKING MAKES IT SO “. This is the absolute reality. No situation is either good or bad, instead our thought is what define every situation. When you start perceiving things from a neutral perspective you will realise the sense of ease, because you’re accepting the situation as it is. which will allow energy to flow.