There’re countless myths about soulmates out there, I honestly dont understand why.. I mean a soulmate must be very distinguishable. However, I decided to make this blog in order to clarify the confusion.
Myth 1: we often think a soulmate is a person who “complete us”. The truth is you’re already a whole, You’re complete by your own. An accurate definition of a soulmate comes from the word itself “mate for the soul“. Which indicate that your soulmate is a person who is spirituality alignment with you and balances you out. A mate who you find harmony with in the physical and non physical world.
Myth 2: Another misunderstanding about soulmates is that he or she must be very similar to you. My answer to this myth is “it depends”. Some soulmates are similar, others are totally opposite. It doesn’t matter! What matters is that there’s a strong field of connection between the two souls. Another sign to look for is that “Do they make me grow?” …doesn’t your partner challenge you into becoming the best version of yourself? If the answer is ” yes” then he/she is your soulmate and vice versa.
Myth 3: Most people believe that a soulmate relationship is all rosy. I’m sorry but it’s not, a soulmate relationship is just like any relationship. There are ups and downs. Especially in a soulmate relationship where each partner subconscious challenges the other’s , it’s fair to say that such relationship could have more difficulties than a regular relationship.
Do you think you are independent at this point of time? … You know I always thought i’m independent at many stages in my life. But every time I think I’m, I discover I’m actually not independent. He who answered this question as “NO”. Is the closest to the truth; YOU CAN NEVER BE INDEPENDENT.
Sure! You will grow and become independent in the dictionary of this world. You will own things..no longer need your parents or people etc. Best of all, you will become emotionally independent ( by spiritualgrowth). Emotional independence is the advanced level of independence. It have a strong link with spirituality since emotions are the language of the heart. When you come to the realisation that your soul is independent of this world, you will learn to survive on your own (with the help of God only). Emotional independent is the detachment from all external sources. It’s such a POWERFUL state of being and it’s empowered even more with the reliance on God.
The reality is, we can’t achieve full independence. Simply because we’re created as The slaves of god. A slave is always needy. Always Relying on his master. It’s a blessing dont you think ? When you understand that your creator is the sustainer and most generous, you will happily submit to him.
Where is the love ? Is it in the things you buy? Is it in your spouse? Is it in nature ? Or in food? Love is within you, It’s not an emotion or a an image ..a person ….a thing …a feeling etc. Love is energy. It’s the energy that gives life. Where there is love there is life
When you like someone you’re selfish. You want to own them. You don’t care if you hurt them through fulfilling your desire. But when you love someone you’re selfless. You care only about their happiness, even if it mean sacrificing your own. Its important to understand that love is pure, it’s from God. Only God can bless you with love. Before you say you love someone test yourself with the definition mentioned above. See if you can LET GO of the person you love. If you failed, then I’m sorry to say IT’S NOT LOVE. IT’S JUST THE EGO, which attach you to your desire (found due to lack in self-esteem and the sense of being incomplete).
Love is infinite. It shouldn’t fade or die simply because energy doesn’t die. Love is a strong nourishing energy that build life on earth. The love in your heart can increase as you ascend through levels of consciousness. Thus many individuals experience a shift in personality after their spiritual awakening process, from bitter and selfish to selfless and compassionate. The love in their hearts have been activated. They then attract more love by practicing love and so forth.
The moral of this blog is; don’t look for love, your not missing it! It’s within you. Just activate it through 2 things;
1. connecting with the true source of love, GOD.
2. Manifesting more love into your life through your actions .
Nobody is hurting us. Instead we hurt ourselves through others. If we don’t turn our focus inward & become conscious of our nature. We’ll allow the past to repeat it’s patterns.
What do you mean by our nature? The human nature is pure but the ego pollute it. The ego is with each one of us “Humans are like the moon, with a bright side and a dark side”. This is absolutely true. We all have an ego. Some activate it and others don’t. The ego is a basically your DARK SIDE. It feed on negative / low energy. Such as anger, drama, fear, sadness, conflicts, hate and jealousy ..etc.
How does it feed on these emotions? The ego see such emotional state as a chance to activate itself through it. So you find yourself getting angry over little meaningless things or get offended by everything.. etc. If so, understand that it’s not you but your ego trying to take over you. Once the ego activate itself it grow, which makes it powerful. If you allow it to keep growing through the negativity; it will eventually control you.
People who are driven by the ego are very reactive. Their ego jumps as soon as it finds an opportunity for conflicts or drama. Another nature of the ego is that it’s an ego! It only validate itself and it’s not fair. It takes a conscious alert self to admit a mistake. Ego is unconsciousness. It’s not your true self, instead your dark side. Therefore, I excuse unconscious people for their actions. I think we should all do so after learning about the ego. However, the ego can be defeated. Battling the ego require time and constant consciousness.
To fight the ego you must BECOME CONSCIOUS OF IT. Yes! As simple as this. All you should do is become alert of it when it’s present. Absorve your ego at the moment of anger or drama. When you notice the ege it shrink in size. Thus by time the ego will diminish.
How do I know I’m ego_free ? The state of no-ego; This state is the state of total awareness and self control. It’s inner peace & calmness. After you have finally won over the ego. You will experience such life changing bless❤.
My sister have spent her entire life hanging from one job to another. In every job she repeated the same phrase ” I’m not happy “. My sister wasn’t a slave to the system. She had courage to stand up for herself and she didBut she couldn’t quit her old fashioned mentality! She was like any human, looking for happiness & success. She was someone who believed happiness & success exist with a common job, especially in a super developed city. My sister failed to realise what she’s looking for is in fact inside her .
“DON’T ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO THE WORLD, ASK WHAT MAKES YOU ALIVE .” This’s one of my favourite quotes plus the reason for my sister’s dissatisfaction. Non of the positions she obtained were fulfilling her, simply because she wasn’t living her life mission. We’re all born with a gift. A gift that’s suppose to be used for the service of others. Everybody’s gift is different. To find what your gift is; you must discover who you are not. When you know who you are not, who you are will become clear.
Note : Don’t confuse your gift with passion or interests! One of the common mistakes is that people have too many interests. So they run around trying to do everything. While you can only get excellent at one thing, Which is your gift..
But How do I find my gift / purpose in life faster? Experience.
I met a very wise man on my flight to Africa who I ended up being friends with. He told me something that’s stuck with me ever since, “welcome all experiences”. Go through everything that comes your way, UNTIL THE END. The more you experience the better you know what not to do. which later guide you to your purpose. Dont take failing as something too seriouse, you’re not worthless! Your failure is for two reasons, either the thing you failed in is not meant for you ( not your purpose) or it is your purpose in life, but you’re on the road of learning. EMBRACE AND LOVE EVERY FAILURE, BECAUSE EVERY FAILURE IS A STEP FORWARD.
People talk about “winning” and “losing“. But winning what ?? Money? is this really what life is about? Is losing really a loss? …Life is nothing but different levels of consciousness for everyone. There’re no WINNERS or LOSERS. we’re in this together. We’re one. Inferiority and superiority are creation of the ego, not the human reality.
The problem with a winner loser mindset is that it defines you with a worldly achievement. Everything that arises dies. This’s the nature of life. Every new life cycle require an ending of another cycle. In order to have an UP there must be a DOWN. However, getting attached to the UP through self definition ( “winner”) is basically allowing yourself to go DOWN with that UP.
Don’t allow the winner mentality to destroy you. Don’t give it power by attaching yourself to it. You are not a winner or a loser, you’re yourself and whatever happens in the external world is not you. Don’t chase things or people! The state of absolute power comes when you’re CONNECTED TO EVERYTHING AND ATTACHED TO NOTHING . I kid you not when I stopped needing or chasing things, everything came to me. There’s a hidden power in detaching yourself.
LETTING GO OF ALL THINGS ATTRACT EVERYTHING. – law of attraction.
I was right for thinking that I can control the majority of things. I successfully did control my thoughts, energy , emotion, desires, body and situations. The only thing I couldn’t control was LOVE. The crazy love that steal your heart without permission and fades away. I’m not talking about a “crush” or affection. I’m talking about the love of a twin flame. The love that overcome gravity! This kind of love is pure and beyond all forces, thus a twin flame physical separation is not a separation! NOTHING REAL IS EVER LOST, AND NOTHING THAT IS LOST WAS EVER REAL.
You don’t lose your twin flame! Because he/she is YOU. When I got separated from my twin flame. I realised that he was inside me all along. He’s a part of me. Which makes it harder to forget him, but you don’t have to forget!! You need to accept the reality. Acceptance is the key to energy flow. As long as you’re holding resistance or any negative behaviour your blocking the cycle of life from moving forward. This blockage can cause you illness and never end the separation.
Furthermore, when you accept everything and let life be. Things will come to you. New opportunities, new experiences, wiser you…etc. Always keep at the bottom of your mind that if something is yours it will never pass you by. TRUST GOD. TRUST THE UNIVERSE.
Basically you didn’t love and lost. You loved and learned … and still loving. The separation of your twin flame is nothing but a plane of god; to help both of you grow into the best version of yourselves. So Let the universe do it’s thing while you appreciate the blessings of life . ❤
Everywhere I went I found broken pieces of beautiful hearts. I tried to become the key to every door. But is it possible? Can one free all?
I knew the power within me is far beyond the limits. “It seems like a hard task ” my inner doubt whispered, as I became more desperate for the mission.
Book after book, I thought I was ready! I took every shot that life granted me. However, the result didn’t satisfy me .
Finally in a cold night. I realised that one does free all. But it can’t be me or you. It must be the one above us ALL.