Due to my experience, I found that fake people vary in degrees of fakeness. So you find a person who’s fake yet not very harmful, while another is super toxic in nature. Why? Because of the materialistic society we live in. Social media encourages people to become FAKE. It brain washes them with immortality. Thus nowadays everybody is infected with a degree of fakeness.
How to spot a fake person? As i mentioned before, fake people are with levels of fakeness, so they might have some of these trades and not all. The people who’re slightly fake are harder to spot than toxic people. Signs of fake people:
1. Attention seeker; A fake person is always hungry for attention and drama. It have to do with his/her ego nature.
2. Showing off all the time; again this subconscious attitude is done by the ego and sense of being incomplete or less than others.
3. They only respect people with power; here where they ” PLAY DIRTY”! Fake people are manipulative experts and super target focused. If they want something from you, they will do anything to get you to like them. It’s also called being TWO FACED or USING OTHERS .
4. They’re a gossiping machine; Fake people love to gossip. They have a sneaky communication habit, Which is not expressing their opinion honesty or directly.
5. They criticize others to make themselves look good. Fake people are very ego based. They’re unable to love or care for anyone other than themselves. They just think of themselves as superior to everyone.
6. They have a big mouth; Fake people will be the first to give promises and big words, yet do nothing at all. They love playing the HERO or Painting a perfect image of themselves .
7. They’re very reactive; Fake people react over everything! They often look for drama and conflicts. So you might find them a little too nosy.
For more understanding on the nature of fake people, Read my blog ” Who’s in control, you or your ego“.
As soon as we give birth our mindset shift from ” free ” to “responsible “. As if a heavy weight is dropped on us. The ego find this an opportunity to grow, so it fool us into defining us with the parenting role. Thus a mother will play the mother role on her kids and gets extremely angry if treated otherwise, because right now it’s not just a role! it’s her identity. WHO SHE IS. Obviously this creates a lot of problems within a family. Parents clinging their kids freedom, Abusing and unfairly dealing with their kids under the role of “parents”. Furthermore, the kids grow up irresponsible, indecisive , lacking personality and independence… Never recovered from the role of ” child ” that was forced by the parents.
Parents! I understand the profound love you’ve for your children. Yet true love can never be expressed through the ego. The ego always seek conflicts to validate itself. The role of a parent is nothing more than a tool for the ego to stay alive inside you and keep you attached. Inaddition the superior parent role creates a boundary between the child and his parent. Any relationship that include the ego is inauthentic.
If you really love your kid and concerned about him/ her, ask yourself these questions every time you catch yourself in the role of parenting.
1. Did I like it when my parents did this to me ?
2. Is their another way I can make my kid understand my message ?
3. WHO is the better teacher experience or what I’m going to say right now ?
4. What’s the worst case scenario my kid can cause ?
5. Is my action and words showing love or the opposite?
6. Do i really want my kid to become the best or be himself ?
You can still be a parent without playing the role of a parent! Give your kids love , give them care & knowledge but through friendship. Become their life companion and not as a superior parent. The best thing you can do is to be YOURSELF. Be real. ONLY REAL THINGS CAN INFLUENCE OTHERS.
Let life teach them! yes, I understand you dont want your kids to do the same mistakes you’ve done. But let’s be real; did you learn through experience or words ? Don’t forget that your experience made you into who you are today. Therefore, give your kids SPACE. Let them be, experience and grow. SPACE is truly the most thing they need. Let go of your attachment to the ego Now! for the sake of your children.
The good will come to you, if you’re patient enough. Patience is hard yet it assures you with a huge reward. Becoming patient is not any kind of superpower, it’s indeed easy. The difference between a patient person and a non-patient or reactive person lies on the mind. He who’s aware of the flow of life
Will tend to be patient. He understands that within every situation there’s the part (for you ) to deal with & the uncontrollable part; the part of the superior power.
After you have used your part wisely the rest must be accepted. The accepting process is translated into patience/ surrender. More of letting life flow as it is. Without resistance or rush.
Everybody can become patient by fully trusting and believing in the cycle of life. What I said earlier, which is Things will fall into place if you just wait and after you have done your part fully. As relaxing as it sound it’s true. The strong belief in the universe & god is the key to patience. Because it brings a sense of control. Pulse aligne your energy with what you desire.
If you want a positive outcome from a situation your energy must align with it, in order to attract it. Thus when your vibration is low / negative based on anger , stress or depression. Even if you’re seeking your desired outcome through action it won’t come to you. Because you’re pushing it away instead of attracting it ! You need to align with it first..
Now you understood how your mental state plays a big part in your life. You shall do your deeds and surrender to the universe. As you’re patiently waiting, enjoy the journey. Your positive state of being will grow & attract more positive things! Things that you didn’t ask for or imagined. These what we call Blessings.
So you are depressed! Let me ask you a few questions before you scroll down. Why are you depression? Do you actually care about the “thing” that made you depressed? Do you think you can control your life & your depression?
Often people say “You can’t control what happen in the external world, but you can control what happens inside of you” what if I told you you actually can control the your external reality, and that it’s nothing but a reflection of your inner state of being. The only reason you’re depressed is because you always focus on the negative and what you focuse on you will shall find. It’s a simple a this!
The truth is there’s no good or bad , instead everything is neutral in nature. Our mind is the instrument that define good and bad. When your mind patterns is defining everything as BAD no wonder why you’re depressed!. Negative thinking patterns develop negative low emotions such as sadness, depression, anixity and madness..etc These emotions then develop a reaction and the reaction become your reality. You’re reaction controls the event, the event doesn’t ontrol your reaction. For example when you’re stuck in a traffic jam you can simply enjoy the sunset view, turning this moment into joy or focuse on the crowd and build up frustration.
The key of happiness is to look at everything as it is. With a neutral perspective. No judgment. Exactly how Shakespeare said ” NOTHING IS GOOD OR BAD BUT THINKING MAKES IT SO ” .
This is the absolute life reality. No situation is either good or bad. Instead our thoughts are what define the situation. When you start perceiving things from a neutral perspective you will realise the sense of ease. Because you’re accepting the situation as it is, which allows the energy to flow. There’re no resistance or negativity. It’s such a blessing of inner peace! Furthermore, neutrality is obtained with a very high vibration, (a high level of consciousness). Thus you can’t effortlessly achieve a neutral mentality. Yet you can practice neutrality by being aware of your judgement.
Catch yourself when you judge a situation as good or bad. Then ask yourself the reason behind your judgement. At this moment it will become clearer to you, that it’s your mind and not the reality of the situation. Now! try to look at the situation from a neutral eye; to do so you must search for the good and the bad. Once the two possibilities are present in a situation you’re basically tricking your mind into opening a door of CHOICE. Your mind can no longer play the victim mentality. But you’re now in control and freedom of choice. You can either choose to react positively or negatively.