There’re countless myths about soulmates out there, I honestly dont understand why.. I mean a soulmate must be very distinguishable. However, I decided to make this blog in order to clarify the confusion.
Myth 1: we often think a soulmate is a person who “complete us”. The truth is you’re already a whole, You’re complete by your own. An accurate definition of a soulmate comes from the word itself “mate for the soul“. Which indicate that your soulmate is a person who is spirituality alignment with you and balances you out. A mate who you find harmony with in the physical and non physical world.
Myth 2: Another misunderstanding about soulmates is that he or she must be very similar to you. My answer to this myth is “it depends”. Some soulmates are similar, others are totally opposite. It doesn’t matter! What matters is that there’s a strong field of connection between the two souls. Another sign to look for is that “Do they make me grow?” …doesn’t your partner challenge you into becoming the best version of yourself? If the answer is ” yes” then he/she is your soulmate and vice versa.
Myth 3: Most people believe that a soulmate relationship is all rosy. I’m sorry but it’s not, a soulmate relationship is just like any relationship. There are ups and downs. Especially in a soulmate relationship where each partner subconscious challenges the other’s , it’s fair to say that such relationship could have more difficulties than a regular relationship.
Take a shower and your depression will go away. I’m seriously! As silly as it sounds, it’s true. Depression is caused by external factors. Like the environment or an event or a simple object that reminded you of your darkest times… it always begin outside, then slowly triggers a certain emotion. The emotion grows as you give it attention and In no time it awakens the pain in your heart. Thus become your state of being; what we often call a MOOD.
There was a time when I got so busy with tasks and decided to put self care as my last priority. I didn’t take a shower for 2 contentious days! GROSS I KNOW. But the lesson I learned from this experiment was BIG. I recognised the dramatic mood swing. Showering is a big deal. When showering you’re not only cleaning your body from dirt. But you’re cleansing your energy too. Our aunt sisters understood that water is the key to life. They referred to water as a cleansing tool and use to do what they called SPIRITUAL SHOWERS. Where you perform a normal shower, but while dropping water on your body you imagen the negative toxic energy falling off with the water. As if the water is stripping away the negative energy from your body part.
The danger of not showing regularly goes beyond the spiritual and psychological aspects. When you don’t shower your skin PH becomes disturbed. In addition your skin pores gets blocked. When your skin can’t breath you feel DEAD and develop frustration, anger and depression. Your state of being reflects on the outside; through your attitude and what you attract. Energy thing is energy, so take care of your energy first .
A short advice to those who have Been suffering with depression for a very long time. YOU’RE NOT ALONE. Yet just because it’s common it doesn’t mean you accept it. Get yourself out of it NOW!! Look at your lifestyle and what could possibly be feeding your depression. Is it sad energy you watch on Instagram? Is it your diet or your self esteem? Or is it the fact that you lock yourself at home? .. You see, our anut sisters lived outdoor. They never had electronic devices or OGM food. They listened to their bodies. Thus they never had depression. LIVE AS A HUMAN, LIVE THE RIGHT WAY.
So you are depressed! Let me ask you a few questions before you scroll down. Why are you depression? ..Do you actually care about the “thing” that made you depressed? Do you think you can control your life & your depression?
Often people say “You can’t control what happen in the externally, but you can control what happens internally ” what if I told you “you can control both”. The external reality is a reflection of your inner state of being. When you get your inner self healed, the external world will automatically align. The only reason you’re depressed is because you’re focused on the negative. WHAT YOU FOCUS ON YOU SHALL FIND.
The truth is there’s no good or bad, instead everything is neutral by nature. Our mind is the instrument that define good and bad. When your mind patterns is defining everything as BAD no wonder why you’re depressed! Negative thinking patterns produce negative low emotions, such as sadness, depression, anixity and madness..etc These emotions then create a reaction and the reaction set your reality. You’re reaction controls the event, the event doesn’t control your reaction.
To clarify, The reaction you give is the product of an emotion . the emotion is born from a certain mindset or what we call a perspective on life. It’s like a chain reaction where one thing drag the rest. For example when you’re stuck in a traffic jam you can simply enjoy the sunset view ( turning this moment into joy) or dwel on the fact that you’re stuck in the crowd.
The key to happiness is to look at everything as it is. With a neutral perspective. No judgment. Exactly how Shakespeare said ” NOTHING IS GOOD OR BAD BUT THINKING MAKES IT SO “. This is the absolute reality. No situation is either good or bad, instead our thought is what define every situation. When you start perceiving things from a neutral perspective you will realise the sense of ease, because you’re accepting the situation as it is. which will allow energy to flow.
My sister have spent her entire life hanging from one job to another. In every job she repeated the same phrase ” I’m not happy “. My sister wasn’t a slave to the system. She had courage to stand up for herself and she didBut she couldn’t quit her old fashioned mentality! She was like any human, looking for happiness & success. She was someone who believed happiness & success exist with a common job, especially in a super developed city. My sister failed to realise what she’s looking for is in fact inside her .
“DON’T ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO THE WORLD, ASK WHAT MAKES YOU ALIVE .” This’s one of my favourite quotes plus the reason for my sister’s dissatisfaction. Non of the positions she obtained were fulfilling her, simply because she wasn’t living her life mission. We’re all born with a gift. A gift that’s suppose to be used for the service of others. Everybody’s gift is different. To find what your gift is; you must discover who you are not. When you know who you are not, who you are will become clear.
Note : Don’t confuse your gift with passion or interests! One of the common mistakes is that people have too many interests. So they run around trying to do everything. While you can only get excellent at one thing, Which is your gift..
But How do I find my gift / purpose in life faster? Experience.
I met a very wise man on my flight to Africa who I ended up being friends with. He told me something that’s stuck with me ever since, “welcome all experiences”. Go through everything that comes your way, UNTIL THE END. The more you experience the better you know what not to do. which later guide you to your purpose. Dont take failing as something too seriouse, you’re not worthless! Your failure is for two reasons, either the thing you failed in is not meant for you ( not your purpose) or it is your purpose in life, but you’re on the road of learning. EMBRACE AND LOVE EVERY FAILURE, BECAUSE EVERY FAILURE IS A STEP FORWARD.
The law of detachment insures you that your burning desire will manifest once you LET GO . You see! when you hold on into something so tight it will slip away, plus your pressure will hurt it. Leaving a room for air is necessary for energy flow. Sure, Have a burning desire that drives you out of bed everyday. But not a Need that destroy you and whatever you love. If your goal didn’t get manifested.
Make your energy aligned and connected with your goals. Alignment is everything! Unfortunately It’s not enough to become detachment. You need to vibrate in the same frequency as what you’re trying to attract. LIKE ATTRACT LIKE. In quantum physics energies with the same wave length and frequency travel together.
BECOME CONNECTED TO EVERYTHING AND ATTACHED TO NOTHING. I know how hard it is to let go of something you desperately want . It’s human nature to have the need to possess things. But the truth is you dont need what you’re seeking. You can live without it! You’re already complete and enough by yourself. Believe in yourself and let go.❤