There’re countless myths about soulmates out there, I honestly dont understand why.. I mean a soulmate must be very distinguishable. However, I decided to make this blog in order to clarify the confusion.
Myth 1: we often think a soulmate is a person who “complete us”. The truth is you’re already a whole, You’re complete by your own. An accurate definition of a soulmate comes from the word itself “mate for the soul“. Which indicate that your soulmate is a person who is spirituality alignment with you and balances you out. A mate who you find harmony with in the physical and non physical world.
Myth 2: Another misunderstanding about soulmates is that he or she must be very similar to you. My answer to this myth is “it depends”. Some soulmates are similar, others are totally opposite. It doesn’t matter! What matters is that there’s a strong field of connection between the two souls. Another sign to look for is that “Do they make me grow?” …doesn’t your partner challenge you into becoming the best version of yourself? If the answer is ” yes” then he/she is your soulmate and vice versa.
Myth 3: Most people believe that a soulmate relationship is all rosy. I’m sorry but it’s not, a soulmate relationship is just like any relationship. There are ups and downs. Especially in a soulmate relationship where each partner subconscious challenges the other’s , it’s fair to say that such relationship could have more difficulties than a regular relationship.
THINK THINK THINK .. I’m sure you have heard this advice before, perhaps your parents told you to think every time you got stuck in a problem. The society link thinking with intelligence and engraved the idea that “ the more you think the smarter you are“. which is nothing but a myth. What if I told you that thinking is actually stupidity. A certain degree of thinking is healthy but if crossed it become overthinking and distract you from the reality, as if you’ve jumped into a dream world of your thoughts. The disadvantage is that you become limited by the bubble of thoughts. kind of like mentally moving in a circle, You fail to think out of the box.
Is the thinking the only function of the brain?
No, the brain is not made only to THINK. indeed thinking is not suppose to be done all day long. In situations where thinking it’s require, thinking must be put to use. Other times it’s best to stop thinking. When you don’t think you finally shift into the NOW. you become fully present at the moment. This shift in focus open the door to creativity. Thus you find your greatest ideas in the shower or while taking a walking etc. Physical activities help rest the mind and turn your focus outward (from the mind into the body), so you don’t think. Instead you feel every inch of yourself and the world around you in action. In other words, you Bec one ALIVE. Albert Einstein once said _“I think 99 times and find nothing. I stop thinking, swim in silence, and the truth comes to me”
NO THINKING = FULL CONSCIOUSNESS
I can’t strop thinking!! and I don’t know what to do when I’m not thinking?
it’s impossible to know the state of consciousness when you are thinking about it. You should just experience it then you will discover the mystery. Certainly you will find it difficult at first. What I usually do to easily shift my focus, is concentrating on something outside of me. like my breathing , sound, the silence in-between the sound, the environment or even on one of my organs. Once I’m successfully present in the now. I simply reflect (observing the surrounding) or imagine ( use my creative imagination). Conscious is like a muscle , it needs practice in order to master it. So try to shift your focus regularly during the day. Catch yourself if possible when you’re unconscious and turn yourself into a conscious state of being. With time you will find yourself more conscious than you were before.
It all began with an empathetic heart that thought it could heal a broken one. With no time the heart broke measurably before realising the absolute reality; which is “it’s not your responsibility to heal, save, punish or control other people”. yes! it’s not. It’s not your job to save others, neither do you have the capacity to do so. Empathy is good yet it should be thinked. An empathy who doesn’t use his mind in taking decisions will definitely break his own heart. Another common heart breaking attitude is expectation. A naive person with a good heart will always expect good from others and will soon be broken by those who are broken. As if a broken heart is a disease that spread..
Since every individual were once naive and empathetic. The world is left with broken people. People who lost hope in life. Neither do they understand their main purpose. To clarify, THE HUMAN MAIN PURPOSE IN LIFE IS NOT TO HELP OTHERS, IT’S TO WORSHIP GOD. When you build a connection with your creator and actually live in alignment with the universe. God will take care of you and those around you. Because only God is capable of healing people.
Are you saying that I must become selfish?
Not selfish, but in understanding of the nature of life. That people are sent to you for two reasons. Either for you to learn a lesson from them or to teach them. However teaching should never be misunderstood as healing. Indeed the best method of teaching is by DOING NOTHING. By being your conscious self that radiate a very intense graceful energy, which goes to impact others positivity. Your consciousness have the power to awaken the consciousness in others. You want to help a negative person? become the best positive person you can be. Your positivity will leave no choice for him/her but to change or to disappear from your life…Again! it goes to the fact that you can’t always heal everyone, only god can. It’s best to accept this truth and never play the victim again. You’re not broken , you’re healed , you’re complete. you have abundance of love within you … tell yourself positive affirmations long enough and it will become your reality.
Take a shower and your depression will go away. I’m seriously! As silly as it sounds, it’s true. Depression is caused by external factors. Like the environment or an event or a simple object that reminded you of your darkest times… it always begin outside, then slowly triggers a certain emotion. The emotion grows as you give it attention and In no time it awakens the pain in your heart. Thus become your state of being; what we often call a MOOD.
There was a time when I got so busy with tasks and decided to put self care as my last priority. I didn’t take a shower for 2 contentious days! GROSS I KNOW. But the lesson I learned from this experiment was BIG. I recognised the dramatic mood swing. Showering is a big deal. When showering you’re not only cleaning your body from dirt. But you’re cleansing your energy too. Our aunt sisters understood that water is the key to life. They referred to water as a cleansing tool and use to do what they called SPIRITUAL SHOWERS. Where you perform a normal shower, but while dropping water on your body you imagen the negative toxic energy falling off with the water. As if the water is stripping away the negative energy from your body part.
The danger of not showing regularly goes beyond the spiritual and psychological aspects. When you don’t shower your skin PH becomes disturbed. In addition your skin pores gets blocked. When your skin can’t breath you feel DEAD and develop frustration, anger and depression. Your state of being reflects on the outside; through your attitude and what you attract. Energy thing is energy, so take care of your energy first .
A short advice to those who have Been suffering with depression for a very long time. YOU’RE NOT ALONE. Yet just because it’s common it doesn’t mean you accept it. Get yourself out of it NOW!! Look at your lifestyle and what could possibly be feeding your depression. Is it sad energy you watch on Instagram? Is it your diet or your self esteem? Or is it the fact that you lock yourself at home? .. You see, our anut sisters lived outdoor. They never had electronic devices or OGM food. They listened to their bodies. Thus they never had depression. LIVE AS A HUMAN, LIVE THE RIGHT WAY.
Do you think you are independent at this point of time? … You know I always thought i’m independent at many stages in my life. But every time I think I’m, I discover I’m actually not independent. He who answered this question as “NO”. Is the closest to the truth; YOU CAN NEVER BE INDEPENDENT.
Sure! You will grow and become independent in the dictionary of this world. You will own things..no longer need your parents or people etc. Best of all, you will become emotionally independent ( by spiritualgrowth). Emotional independence is the advanced level of independence. It have a strong link with spirituality since emotions are the language of the heart. When you come to the realisation that your soul is independent of this world, you will learn to survive on your own (with the help of God only). Emotional independent is the detachment from all external sources. It’s such a POWERFUL state of being and it’s empowered even more with the reliance on God.
The reality is, we can’t achieve full independence. Simply because we’re created as The slaves of god. A slave is always needy. Always Relying on his master. It’s a blessing dont you think ? When you understand that your creator is the sustainer and most generous, you will happily submit to him.
I understand the struggle and your burning desire for change. But Unfortunately, battling is not the right method. YOU CAN’T CHANGE THE NEGATIVE WITH NEGATIVE. In order to obtain real change you must start with changing the source of the problem. Otherwise the problem will keep recurring; because no effective change have been applied. Likewise, To build a strong building, you need a good foundation. we often focus on the problem instead of the source of the problem. Then as reactive beings we try to replace the existing with our perspective, using force. Thus we fail and will keep failing.
Another problem we commit while seeking change, is that we think everything can be solved using Force. while in reality it complicate things even more. TRY USING YOUR ENERGY INSTEAD OF YOUR BODY. Energy can’t be ignored nor avoided. It’s what makes us and the laws of the universe. When you influence a negative source with good energy, you’ll not only succeed in transforming the source. But you will also attract more positive results.
Let me tell you a little story that happened to me a long time ago; We all have that one person who hates us, for no reason. It’s not that he/she spit out their hate, but the repulsive energy they transmit towards you is obvious. Fast forward, I was once put into an event with a person who held such feelings towards me. It’s not like we’ve spoke before. Yet the moment I acknowledged his hate towards me, I began to transmit positive energy ( In the form of thoughts) . Such as ” hey! your safe, your wonderful, your amazing , i love you, you are blessed, I’m peace, I’m not judging you…etc “. I transmitted a combination of love, positivity and healing energy and I kid you not! the situation shifted 360 degrees!!! The person became more relaxed and peaceful. We even became friends later on.
The method I used here is called TELEPATHY COMMUNICATION. I’m not saying that we should always use this technique. My story is only an example that shows you the power of energy. Nevertheless, You can change people using positive energy, in the form of attitude, positive words, thoughts or just A SMILE. To me this’s the true definition of winning, it’s not only by solving a problem but also saving a life. Picking up someone who’s trapped in negatively and giving them light… We’re not here to create enimes, infact we’re ONE. When you harm others you’re indirectly harming yourself. Plus you’re no longer better than them. So use your energy WISELY. 💕
I was in a gathering the other day where everybody BRAGED. Showing off what they have and did. Naturally I just don’t like talking about myself, especially showing off. So i stayed silent. The following days I realized the change in attitude. Obviously the one who showed off the most or in the society’s eyes is “Great” and “Wealthy ” was given respect and honnor. Where for me I was discounted. As a result I got taken by the negativity, not that they harmed me but the act of racism or segregation by itself is negative.
” Just because i dont show off my greatness, doesnt mean i’m not great“. This thought bought me back to my senses. It’s insane how we can think less of ourselves and believe in other’s opinion of us. Yet worst, make it our reality. We live in an age where Trend is stronger than one’s own voice. Indeed, the society tremendously influence how we perceive ourselves. THE ASCH CONFORMITY EXPERIMENT; is a psychological experiment done in the 1950’s. The experiment revealed the degree to which a person’s opinion is influenced by those of groups. It proved that the society can suppress our voice. In fact, people were willing to ignore the reality and give an incorrect answer inorder to conform to the rest of the group. See for yourself ;
You’re great and you don’t need to prove it! No, you don’t need to mimic the fales greatness ( The Greatness measured with materialistic properties, which motivate us to show off and brag instead of act and impact). Greatness is already within you. The true greatness. At the end the only memory will be left of you after you die, is the memories you gave to others. Not your big house or your fancy cars, But how many hearts did you touch. To conclude, just think wiser and become aware of the effect on society on your mind.
ANTI-SOCIAL BEHAVIOUR IS AN ACT OF INTELLIGENCE IN A WORLD FULL OF CONFORMIST _ Nikola Tesla.
Where is the love ? Is it in the things you buy? Is it in your spouse? Is it in nature ? Or in food? Love is within you, It’s not an emotion or a an image ..a person ….a thing …a feeling etc. Love is energy. It’s the energy that gives life. Where there is love there is life
When you like someone you’re selfish. You want to own them. You don’t care if you hurt them through fulfilling your desire. But when you love someone you’re selfless. You care only about their happiness, even if it mean sacrificing your own. Its important to understand that love is pure, it’s from God. Only God can bless you with love. Before you say you love someone test yourself with the definition mentioned above. See if you can LET GO of the person you love. If you failed, then I’m sorry to say IT’S NOT LOVE. IT’S JUST THE EGO, which attach you to your desire (found due to lack in self-esteem and the sense of being incomplete).
Love is infinite. It shouldn’t fade or die simply because energy doesn’t die. Love is a strong nourishing energy that build life on earth. The love in your heart can increase as you ascend through levels of consciousness. Thus many individuals experience a shift in personality after their spiritual awakening process, from bitter and selfish to selfless and compassionate. The love in their hearts have been activated. They then attract more love by practicing love and so forth.
The moral of this blog is; don’t look for love, your not missing it! It’s within you. Just activate it through 2 things;
1. connecting with the true source of love, GOD.
2. Manifesting more love into your life through your actions .
What is the soul? Your soul is yourself. The reality of who you are. Indeed you’re nothing more than a deadless, formless and timeless soul. The idea that when your body get sick, your soul get sick which result into death is incorrect. Instead it’s because of a sick soul the body get sick. “We’re not a human beings having a spiritual experience, we’re spiritual beings having a human experience. ”
I want you to imagine a building as your body and it’s base as your soul. The building consist of a strong structure yet if something happens to the base the whole building will fall. On the other hand If something happens to the top of the building the base will remain unaffected. The structure of the building can always be rebuilt; but the base can’t be recovered without destroying the entire building including the base.
My point is, a healthy soul is essential for survival. You must have a strong base in Order to overcome all storms. The amazing thing about the human soul is that it doesn’t ask for much! It doesn’t require sleep or food or money etc. It already have a permemnent life. The only thing the soul needs is a connection with it’s creator. Thus a spiritual connection with god is important, it’s the only way the soul can charge itself and stay alive.
How do I practice spiritual Connection ?
Spiritual connection can be done through praying or meditating. Basically setting an alone time with god, taking to him and acknowledging him. The process of god consciousness is a door way for the soul to connect with it’s master. The absence or lack of this process can be described as heaviness in the chest and you can actually tell that your soul desire a connection with god… It’s very intoxicated by the materialistic world, it badly needs to rest.
How is the soul toxicated by the materialistic world?
The soul is of different nature than the body. The things that the body enjoy and desire; will not satisfy the soul. For example you see people with a sick soul and are very concentrated on the body needs. They arrive at a certain point where their soul breaks. Thus they try to heal it using all the materialistic things in this world but it just never heals.
Nobody is hurting us. Instead we hurt ourselves through others. If we don’t turn our focus inward & become conscious of our nature. We’ll allow the past to repeat it’s patterns.
What do you mean by our nature? The human nature is pure but the ego pollute it. The ego is with each one of us “Humans are like the moon, with a bright side and a dark side”. This is absolutely true. We all have an ego. Some activate it and others don’t. The ego is a basically your DARK SIDE. It feed on negative / low energy. Such as anger, drama, fear, sadness, conflicts, hate and jealousy ..etc.
How does it feed on these emotions? The ego see such emotional state as a chance to activate itself through it. So you find yourself getting angry over little meaningless things or get offended by everything.. etc. If so, understand that it’s not you but your ego trying to take over you. Once the ego activate itself it grow, which makes it powerful. If you allow it to keep growing through the negativity; it will eventually control you.
People who are driven by the ego are very reactive. Their ego jumps as soon as it finds an opportunity for conflicts or drama. Another nature of the ego is that it’s an ego! It only validate itself and it’s not fair. It takes a conscious alert self to admit a mistake. Ego is unconsciousness. It’s not your true self, instead your dark side. Therefore, I excuse unconscious people for their actions. I think we should all do so after learning about the ego. However, the ego can be defeated. Battling the ego require time and constant consciousness.
To fight the ego you must BECOME CONSCIOUS OF IT. Yes! As simple as this. All you should do is become alert of it when it’s present. Absorve your ego at the moment of anger or drama. When you notice the ege it shrink in size. Thus by time the ego will diminish.
How do I know I’m ego_free ? The state of no-ego; This state is the state of total awareness and self control. It’s inner peace & calmness. After you have finally won over the ego. You will experience such life changing bless❤.